Our journey together hasn't always been a smooth ride; there was a time when it felt like we were on the verge of heading in separate directions. The weight of our challenges bore down on us, and we found ourselves at a crossroads, contemplating a life apart.
Love Amidst Chaos
Amid the chaos and uncertainty, one fundamental truth remained unwavering: our love for each other. Despite the hurdles we faced, the desire to be together never waned. It wasn't that we no longer cared; it was more about needing to break free from the intense, stressful energy that had enveloped our lives. It was the typical experience of the first few years of having a child, running a small business, and dealing with financial pressures.
Prioritising Love
In those challenging times, we yearned for a way to reconnect without the burden of our circumstances. We recognised that our relationship was worth fighting for, even if it meant reevaluating and reshaping the dynamics of our lives. It was a pivotal moment when we chose to prioritise our love above all else, paving the way for a brighter, more harmonious future together.
Investing in Our Relationship
Even though I initially had reservations and was quite petrified about the relationship course Kacey had signed us up for, I decided to go – being a good husband and earning some brownie points, you know?
Little did I know that Kacey's philosophy of servicing our relationship before it breaks and proudly seeking counseling and support would turn out to be a game-changer. All the sweat and toilet runs were worth it. Lucky I got on the plane.
The Value of Hard Work
In retrospect, we genuinely believe that without the hard work we've put into our relationship, those challenging seasons when we seemed to despise each other and contemplate walking away would have been insurmountable. Yet, here we are, in a much better place, blissfully aware that a marriage, like life, has its seasons and although the work cost an arm and leg, it's far cheaper than the alternative.
A Journey of Growth
Through our journey, we've learned that growth and improvement are ongoing processes. We now have a clearer understanding of what we don't want and how our past experiences shape our behavior in our relationship. Every day, we take small but meaningful actions to become the best versions of ourselves as lovers.
Imperfectly Perfect
We're far from perfect; we're just two imperfect humans navigating the complexities of love. We still raise our voices, get frustrated, love intensely, and enjoy each other's company – often all at the same time. But the difference is that we've learned to smooth out the rough edges of our rollercoaster ride, making it less spiky and more enjoyable.
A Lifelong Commitment
Through it all, we continue to honour the commitment we started – a lifelong journey together. We're in this for the long haul, ready to embrace all the seasons that come our way, knowing that our love will only continue to grow stronger.
Our wedding rings and the TUFF tips we share are a legacy we hope to imprint on the world, bringing joy to more marriages and, therefore, families.
